Sunday, December 6, 2009
Trust Your Feelings
I always hate it when I hear someone giving over simplified advice. 'Trust your feelings', is one line I can't stand. People who commit suicide trust their feelings. Your feelings can lead to self destruction. That's one thing most people never understand. Your feelings are not just tied to your own individual health and well being they are tied to the well being of the social group you're in. A human alone can't perpetuate the species so why would our emotional system evolve just to ensure we as individuals survive and thrive. Individuals who are disconnected from their primary social group or feel at odds with that group's values will feel like they should eliminate themselves. If that's you currently then if you trust your negative feelings you are probably going to be hurting yourself. Self destruction is part of our nature as small group primates.
Intense emotion either good or bad should really be kept in check. I try to figure out what's triggering an intense emotion. If it's nothing I can really lock down I don't act on it if I feel like it'll change my life in some drastic way. Because I know if I don't understand what's going on and I act solely on emotion I may end up screwing my life up, breaking someone else's heart needlessly, or I'll just be wandering with no direction. I'll be letting my current circumstance take me for a ride.